Part 1: How to Help Your Loved One Overcome Resistance to Senior Living

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Part 1: How to Help Your Loved One Overcome Resistance to Senior Living

Friday, June 06, 2025

Starting the Conversation with Compassion and Confidence

Most families aren’t prepared for the moment when it's time to talk with a loved one about moving to a senior living community. With nearly 85% of seniors preferring to age in place, it can be heartbreaking—and stressful—to acknowledge when that’s no longer the safest option.

At Parkwood Heights Senior Living Community, we understand just how delicate this topic is. Shock, sadness, anger, or even silence are common reactions when you bring it up. Some seniors change the subject or joke about it, while others may have already thought about senior living but didn’t know how to start the conversation themselves.

That’s why preparing for the conversation thoughtfully is so important.

Preparing for the Conversation

Before talking to your loved one, gather your family support team. Focus on your loved one’s current and future care needs, and make sure everyone agrees on a respectful, unified approach. Choose just one or two people to have the first conversation—too many voices can feel overwhelming.

Approach Gently, Speak Early

It’s best to begin the discussion early—before a crisis forces the decision. Start with a soft, open-ended question like:

“Where do you see yourself living as you get older?”

This helps gauge their perspective and opens the door to an ongoing dialogue rather than a one-time push for a decision.

Be Patient and Keep the Lines Open

The move to senior living is a major life change. If your loved one reacts with denial, frustration, or fear, don’t argue. These are normal responses. Instead, keep the conversation open, empathize, and provide reassurance that you’re here to support—not control—their decisions.

Avoid phrases like “You need to…” Instead, say things like:

“I’ve noticed you seem more tired after doing yard work. What would it feel like to have that taken care of for you?”

Let them feel heard. Empower them to take an active role in deciding what comes next.

Common Objections to Senior Living—and How to Address Them

Understanding your loved one’s concerns is the first step toward easing them.

1. Denial

“I’m fine on my own.”

This common response is often rooted in the desire to remain independent. Reassure your loved one that today’s senior communities are built around supporting independence, not taking it away.

2. Social Fears

“I’ll lose my friends and routines.”

Many seniors worry that moving will disconnect them from their identity and community. In truth, most residents at Parkwood Heights find that they’re more socially active than before—enjoying new friendships, events, and a renewed sense of purpose.

3. Financial Worries

“Can I even afford this?”

Only 1 in 5 people under 70 plan financially for senior living, so cost is often a big question mark. Parkwood Heights offers a free cost comparison tool that shows just how affordable—and valuable—our all-inclusive lifestyle can be.

4. Outdated Perceptions

“I don’t want to live in a nursing home.”

Today’s senior living is nothing like the “nursing homes” of the past. Parkwood Heights offers beautiful, private residences with exceptional amenities, social programs, and care tailored to your loved one’s needs. A low-pressure lunch tour can go a long way toward changing these perceptions.

Take the First Step—Together

Not sure how to move forward? Start by visiting Parkwood Heights yourself. Tour our community, talk to residents and staff, and experience the warm, homelike atmosphere for yourself. Then invite your loved one to join you for lunch—just to “check it out.”

Contact Parkwood Heights today to schedule a visit or learn more about our services.

We're here to help your loved one feel confident, comfortable, and cared for—every step of the way.

Rosa
Rosa / Family

Here it is just a little over two weeks since we moved Bruce into Parkwood. I just wanted to tell you how pleased we are with Bruce’s transition and acclimation to Parkwood Heights. The entire staff and residents have been so very welcoming, helpful, and supportive.I see a remarkable difference in Bruce’s energy, health, and his avenues of interest….. We owe this to the eager and affirmative attention everyone at Parkwood has given Bruce over these past two weeks…Oh my gosh, I can’t tell you how relieved, rested, and encouraged I feel since Bruce has joined the Parkwood community…

Ken and Bev Keyes
Ken and Bev Keyes / Family

Ken and I just want to let you know how much we appreciated having our Uncle in the Enriched Program at Parkwood Heights. His apartment was bright and inviting and the care he received by all the staff was wonderful. He could be independent, as well as cared for in relation to his needs. No matter what the day brought, the staff would tell us they loved their jobs and would always have a smile and a hug for everyone, helping to make each day a better day for those around them.

Dolores
Dolores / Resident

I moved to Parkwood Heights in 2005 because I wanted to live closer to my daughter. The activities department was the deciding factor. I enjoy having so many activities and events to choose from. Also, when calculating my expenses to live in my home or to live at Parkwood, the decision was made easier because the cost was about the same.

Tom & Donna
Tom & Donna / Family

On January 19th we moved mom from Florida to New York. We were pleased with Parkwood Heights, from staff to the lovely facility. It was a difficult move for mom at the age of 97 as well as us with the arrangements. From day one, all of our questions were answered and we were guided through the move as easily as possible.

Tom and Nancy
Tom and Nancy / Villa Residents

We had been looking around for about 2 years ... we knew that we wanted a spacious villa ... we came to Parkwood because we wanted to do things and they had just what we were looking for. There are so many activities to choose from, places to go and people to visit with. We love it here.

Norma
Norma / Resident

I've been living at Parkwood Heights since November of 2000. I am so happy here ~ the people are so nice and there is so much to do. If I didn't like it here I'd be a fool.

Elenore Bulau
Elenore Bulau / Resident

I have no qualms about saying the management staff is excellent – always friendly and will drop everything to listen to you.

Jeannette M.
Jeannette M. / Resident

There is a great variety of activities and the staff are willing to do anything!

Helen Lund
Helen Lund / Resident

The maintenance guys are so friendly and take care of our requests promptly

J. Bieler
J. Bieler / Resident

The drivers are super caring people who always do a good job

Bev Breen
Bev Breen / Resident

Our servers are wonderful!